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Mr. Stout

Work, social media, friends, family, phones ….constant distractions. It seems like everything is done in a way to distract you from what you are supposed to do. Well, it’s true. It is that way. The new norm is to be always busy. It’s not normal to do just one thing.

But(t), let’s talk about that one thing that gives us what we truly want and desire, drum roll please……an orgasm.

Who doesn’t want to have one? Well, I am sure there are lots of people who are too busy to even think of having one. It is challenging when we are busy all day long and get home exhausted.

Now that we’ve covered the negative, let us jump into the positive. My experience tells me that if I constantly try to focus on getting down and dirty in the evening, chances are, it won’t happen. Perhaps it is the mental energy it requires combined with the day-to-day. But at the end, hitting the pillow and getting some sleep is all my body craves. My strategy: don’t over-focus on it. A few dirty texts to your significant other during the day to keep things spicy without overdoing it. Try and maintain that level of spice without necessarily going all out. Just enough to want more. Then when you are done with your day and away from those daily distractions, set the mood. Turn off the notifications and for god sake, watch some porn people. Do it with your partner. It will help get things flowing. Once it flows, our animal instincts kick it and we will lose ourselves in that moment. After all, it is like a muscle so take the time to train it and be patient with one another. One last thing….don’t forget to be open and have fun.

As for distraction, this is one and I need to stop writing so that I can get down and dirty.

Happy boinking everyone!

Mr. Stout

Mrs. Stout

Whether it’s because of stress at work, lack of sleep, kids, teenagers, responsibilities, family obligations, holidays, war, or bad news in general: Our kinky life takes a hit!

Of course it’s okay to take a break, rest, binge-watch Bridgerton and just fuck off sometimes, BUT(T) it’s important to find back to your smuttiness sooner than later.

Forget about the apple, an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!

• Find out your partners’ sexy hour. We all have that special time of the day where our hormones go wild….I LOVE the afternoons.
• Wake up that dormant inner slut and get the blood pumping down there. Best time for a wake up call is shortly after your period says goodbye. And once she’s awake….keep on entertaining her daily!
• Watch porn together
• Read Annika’s smutty spanking romance
• Send sexy GIF’s to each other of things that turn you on
• If you feel too lazy for acrobatics, try out masturbating next to each other
• Last but not least: Switch off the news because ignorance is bliss!

What tips and tricks do you have to get back into your smuttiness when life gets in the way?

Mrs. Stout

Mr. Stout

I’m the living proof. Now… let’s not all get too excited just yet. It wasn’t all canes, hairbrushes and belts. It definitely took some time. 

Ok, I admit. I’m a butt man. Big butts and thighs… Curves are my thing. So what does this have to do with spanking?? Well, a lot for me. As a “butt man” I like to see them jiggle and wiggle. There’s something about that movement. When you slap down on a nice round booty, that 🌊 wave is so, so nice to see. It’s one of those magical moments. 

I dabbled a bit with spanking back in the day with some ex girlfriends. A tap here and there but nothing too exciting. More as a joke but I now realize that perhaps it meant more than that. When I met Mrs. Stout, we were able to be friends before lovers and maybe this helped with the openness regarding the topic. When she showed me what she liked, I wasn’t turned off by it. Quite the contrary, it turned me on. There is something very sexy about a woman who knows what she wants. 

As the years went by, I began to enjoy it more and more. It was hot and I could see how much it turned her on. But was I good at it??? I was just learning, fast forward 10years…I now have a PhD in OTK. 🤭 Just like anything else, when you build up confidence and your significant other praises you, you become better at it. As you become better at something, you tend to enjoy it more. And as you see what pleasure and happiness you bring your partner, this makes it all come together. 

The spankings now mean more to me then ever. It’s a special moment between Mrs.Stout and I. It’s special because it brings us close. There is trust, there is love, there is passion and most importantly, there is all that communication between us that joins us tightly. That sex and submission video she showed me, will always have a special place in my heart. 

What I am saying is that it’s all about communication. Communicate your thoughts… your dirty ones. Give each other time to digest them. Talk openly about it. Maybe it’s your thing…maybe not. But at least be open to listen to your partner. After all, who doesn’t deserve a good slap on their booty? 

Happy Spanking,

Mr. Stout

Mrs. Stout

Absolutely!! How do I know?? I did it!! 

What was probably the perfect prerequisite for Mr. Stout’s conversion is that he is a butt lover. Converting him into a Spanko didn’t happen overnight though. It was a process of many years until he was as much into spanking as I am. Being a true gentleman, spanking a woman was against his upbringing and it took a while to rewire his brain. 

Back then the spankings weren’t long enough or strong enough and didn’t happen often enough but I wasn’t pushy about it. Asking for a spanking just isn’t the same as being told you’ll get spanked. 

Sharing videos, GIFs, and fantasies have been very helpful in the process and so is giving feedback during or after a spanking. But what changed things from good to amazing was letting him read my books.  

Mr. Stout is always the first to read my books and my favorite person to discuss new story ideas. Knowing my fantasies in detail, made him act on it a lot more frequently and OMG it’s so good!  

If you’re a man who wants to spank a woman, I think it’s even easier. Start with a sensual butt massage. Get that backside excited about any type of touch and move yourself up slowly and gently. This is not the time to take out paddles or canes. Hand, hand, and more hand. Mix up the spanks with a lot of touch to warm up her bottom and heart to the wonderful world of spanking. 

And always keep in mind: 

• Gentlemen, it’s totally fine to spank a woman when done consensually!!!
• Communication is lubrication. 
• Give it time.
• Until your Non-Spanko partner is fully converted into a Spanko, your fantasy is your best friend. 

Mr. Stout

Porn is the catalyst that lets you disconnect from reality. It’s hot, it’s fun and sometimes we need to look at it to imagine something that is uncomfortably hot.

After all, how can you truly know what you are into without watching it?

It’s worth mentioning that porn is not all the same. It comes in many different ways and it’s far more exciting then your typical “Ron Jeremy big dick” movie. 

There are many artist who draw hot and erotic pictures that can be extremely arousing. What about Hentai? I’ve seen some some pretty kinky stuff that has turned me on and the fact that’s it’s a cartoon softens the (yuk) side of it. It’s almost as if it allows us to enjoy the visual without having to really see it up close and personal.

Porn has evolved quite a bit over the past two centuries. It’s more than what we think and just like anything else…. There is the good stuff and the bad. It’s up to you to decide. 

So don’t judge and let your curiosity lead you in the right direction. 

Happy wanking!

Mrs. Stout

Porn is an illusion, a fantasy. I compare it to my own fantasies which are often an extreme of what I actually want to live.

I’ve asked my friends if they watched porn with their significant other and was surprised how many couples do not. Most do of course, but not together, which makes me wonder: How many couples share their dirty little fantasies and kinks with each other and how many people hide them, possibly ashamed of it?

There are studies, often religious, claiming porn makes you addicted and is bad for your relationship. And then there are studies finding the opposite. Now guess, what my experience is? 

Ok you’ve guessed it, I LOVE porn since the day I secretly watched my first erotic movie on mainstream television in which topless women danced around a huge golden phallus. The porn industry has evolved so much in the last years and there is something for everyone. Below I will list a few of my favorite resources for general porn and of course spanking videos.

When I met Mr. Stout, I didn’t know how to tell him that I’m into spanking, so I showed him a video instead. The porn I watched was mostly from Sex and Submission which was a bit too much BDSM and not enough sensual OTK, but it was better than nothing. Unless you’re born in the new millennium, you had to do without YouPorn and Spankingtube and appreciate whatever was out there. 

I had a DVD with a video featuring Jean Val Jean. Now go on and google Jean Val Jean from Sex and Submission and admit it….who wouldn’t want to get pulled over his knee for a firm spanking?

So this is how Mr. Stout got introduced to my kink and many years later, we still watch porn together or exchange kinky GIFs. It’s been great for our sex life, to show each other the things we like and also to help us get into the mood when you’re tired and exhausted after a long day at work. 

That secret go-to video you’ve been binge watching for years? Share it with your partner! Just do it and ask them to do the same. You can start with GIF’s and work yourself up. Black and white ones often look more tasteful and erotic.

And for that happy ending, here’s the list I’ve promised you.

• Reddit: Oh yes, that kinky world of Reddit has tons of porn. My favorite is r/chickflixxx (recommendations from female reddit users with links). Of course you can look up “spanking” in the search bar within the reddit. Keep in mind that if you’re male, you’re not allowed to comment or send suggestions on this reddit. 
• https://www.bellesa.co (Bellesa – features the best free female friendly HD porn videos and erotic stories.
• Spankingtube: My two favorite accounts:
  • https://www.spankingtube.com/user/agoodspankin
  • https://www.spankingtube.com/user/RandVix
• The best porn plays in your head when you read books. Go to https://annikastout.com/books for your kinky spanking romance.