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Can you convert a Non-Spanko into a Spanko?

Mr. Stout

I’m the living proof. Now… let’s not all get too excited just yet. It wasn’t all canes, hairbrushes and belts. It definitely took some time. 

Ok, I admit. I’m a butt man. Big butts and thighs… Curves are my thing. So what does this have to do with spanking?? Well, a lot for me. As a “butt man” I like to see them jiggle and wiggle. There’s something about that movement. When you slap down on a nice round booty, that 🌊 wave is so, so nice to see. It’s one of those magical moments. 

I dabbled a bit with spanking back in the day with some ex girlfriends. A tap here and there but nothing too exciting. More as a joke but I now realize that perhaps it meant more than that. When I met Mrs. Stout, we were able to be friends before lovers and maybe this helped with the openness regarding the topic. When she showed me what she liked, I wasn’t turned off by it. Quite the contrary, it turned me on. There is something very sexy about a woman who knows what she wants. 

As the years went by, I began to enjoy it more and more. It was hot and I could see how much it turned her on. But was I good at it??? I was just learning, fast forward 10years…I now have a PhD in OTK. 🤭 Just like anything else, when you build up confidence and your significant other praises you, you become better at it. As you become better at something, you tend to enjoy it more. And as you see what pleasure and happiness you bring your partner, this makes it all come together. 

The spankings now mean more to me then ever. It’s a special moment between Mrs.Stout and I. It’s special because it brings us close. There is trust, there is love, there is passion and most importantly, there is all that communication between us that joins us tightly. That sex and submission video she showed me, will always have a special place in my heart. 

What I am saying is that it’s all about communication. Communicate your thoughts… your dirty ones. Give each other time to digest them. Talk openly about it. Maybe it’s your thing…maybe not. But at least be open to listen to your partner. After all, who doesn’t deserve a good slap on their booty? 

Happy Spanking,

Mr. Stout

Mrs. Stout

Absolutely!! How do I know?? I did it!! 

What was probably the perfect prerequisite for Mr. Stout’s conversion is that he is a butt lover. Converting him into a Spanko didn’t happen overnight though. It was a process of many years until he was as much into spanking as I am. Being a true gentleman, spanking a woman was against his upbringing and it took a while to rewire his brain. 

Back then the spankings weren’t long enough or strong enough and didn’t happen often enough but I wasn’t pushy about it. Asking for a spanking just isn’t the same as being told you’ll get spanked. 

Sharing videos, GIFs, and fantasies have been very helpful in the process and so is giving feedback during or after a spanking. But what changed things from good to amazing was letting him read my books.  

Mr. Stout is always the first to read my books and my favorite person to discuss new story ideas. Knowing my fantasies in detail, made him act on it a lot more frequently and OMG it’s so good!  

If you’re a man who wants to spank a woman, I think it’s even easier. Start with a sensual butt massage. Get that backside excited about any type of touch and move yourself up slowly and gently. This is not the time to take out paddles or canes. Hand, hand, and more hand. Mix up the spanks with a lot of touch to warm up her bottom and heart to the wonderful world of spanking. 

And always keep in mind: 

  • Gentlemen, it’s totally fine to spank a woman when done consensually!!!
  • Communication is lubrication. 
  • Give it time.
  • Until your Non-Spanko partner is fully converted into a Spanko, your fantasy is your best friend. 
By annikastout.com, ago

Mr. & Mrs. Stout’s Thoughts On Porn

Mr. Stout

Porn is the catalyst that lets you disconnect from reality. It’s hot, it’s fun and sometimes we need to look at it to imagine something that is uncomfortably hot.

After all, how can you truly know what you are into without watching it?

It’s worth mentioning that porn is not all the same. It comes in many different ways and it’s far more exciting then your typical “Ron Jeremy big dick” movie. 

There are many artist who draw hot and erotic pictures that can be extremely arousing. What about Hentai? I’ve seen some some pretty kinky stuff that has turned me on and the fact that’s it’s a cartoon softens the (yuk) side of it. It’s almost as if it allows us to enjoy the visual without having to really see it up close and personal.

Porn has evolved quite a bit over the past two centuries. It’s more than what we think and just like anything else…. There is the good stuff and the bad. It’s up to you to decide. 

So don’t judge and let your curiosity lead you in the right direction. 

Happy wanking!

Mrs. Stout

Porn is an illusion, a fantasy. I compare it to my own fantasies which are often an extreme of what I actually want to live.

I’ve asked my friends if they watched porn with their significant other and was surprised how many couples do not. Most do of course, but not together, which makes me wonder: How many couples share their dirty little fantasies and kinks with each other and how many people hide them, possibly ashamed of it?

There are studies, often religious, claiming porn makes you addicted and is bad for your relationship. And then there are studies finding the opposite. Now guess, what my experience is? 

Ok you’ve guessed it, I LOVE porn since the day I secretly watched my first erotic movie on mainstream television in which topless women danced around a huge golden phallus. The porn industry has evolved so much in the last years and there is something for everyone. Below I will list a few of my favorite resources for general porn and of course spanking videos.

When I met Mr. Stout, I didn’t know how to tell him that I’m into spanking, so I showed him a video instead. The porn I watched was mostly from Sex and Submission which was a bit too much BDSM and not enough sensual OTK, but it was better than nothing. Unless you’re born in the new millennium, you had to do without YouPorn and Spankingtube and appreciate whatever was out there. 

I had a DVD with a video featuring Jean Val Jean. Now go on and google Jean Val Jean from Sex and Submission and admit it….who wouldn’t want to get pulled over his knee for a firm spanking?

So this is how Mr. Stout got introduced to my kink and many years later, we still watch porn together or exchange kinky GIFs. It’s been great for our sex life, to show each other the things we like and also to help us get into the mood when you’re tired and exhausted after a long day at work. 

That secret go-to video you’ve been binge watching for years? Share it with your partner! Just do it and ask them to do the same. You can start with GIF’s and work yourself up. Black and white ones often look more tasteful and erotic.

And for that happy ending, here’s the list I’ve promised you.

By annikastout.com, ago